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Tuesday, January 10th, 2012
9:43 pm
An awesome dad

Series of text messages from damnyouautocorrect.com

Dad: come on down, dinner is ready
Daughter: Be there in a min, I'm doing Lauren
Dad: who the fuck is Lauren
Dad: if she is your girlfriend, she can have some dinner too
Daughter: Dad! I meant laundry. I'm not  a lesbian.
Dad: that's a shame. men are dicks. now come eat

The daughter might not actually be queer, but still parenting WIN.
Tuesday, October 25th, 2011
6:35 pm
Queer Music!
I'm sorry if this isn't exactly the right comm for this, but I need suggestions for (PG13 at the worst; It's for a school function at my Catholic university) music that celebrates being queer. My only request is that it be music about being queer, not just music by a queer icon. Thanks in advance for any help! :)

Also, I'm looking for music about all aspects of queer life, but I'll note that I'm having particular difficulty finding anything that really celebrates people on the trans* spectrum.

Current Mood: bouncy
Saturday, June 25th, 2011
1:11 am

"ALBANY, N.Y. – New York lawmakers narrowly voted to legalize same-sex marriage Friday, handing activists a breakthrough victory in the state where the gay rights movement was born. . . The New York bill cleared the Republican-controlled Senate on a 33-29 vote. The Democrat-led Assembly, which previously approved the bill, passed the Senate's stronger religious exemptions in the measure Friday, and Democratic Gov. Andrew Cuomo, who campaigned on the issue last year, has promised to sign it. Same-sex couples can begin marrying 30 days after that.

Cuomo made a surprise and triumphant walk around the Senate, introduced like a rock star by his lieutenant governor, Robert Duffy. The filled upper gallery shouted down to Cuomo, "Thank you!"

"Feels good?" Cuomo shouted up with a big smile and thumbs up. "Thank you!""


Anyone going to the Pride Parade on Sunday? It's going to be AMAZING.
Tuesday, May 31st, 2011
8:00 pm
Trans Girl Elected Prom Queen!
McFatter High School (Davie, Florida) Senior, Andii Viveros, was elected prom queen Friday night! She was competing against thirteen other girls for the title. She is the first trans prom queen in a US public school.

Current Mood: jubilant
Friday, January 7th, 2011
10:37 am
Needed to share this
My friend wrote this, and I want everybody I know to read it, and disseminate it as far as it can go.

For the children I will never have: The facts of life

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Current Mood: cheerful
Wednesday, January 5th, 2011
11:40 pm
A very special kitchen/bar/wait staff yay!
Today has just been a Queer Yay kind of day. :)

Background: I work as a short-order cook (I would technically be a line cook if we were a little more organized, but we're not) at a bar/restaurant in West Virginia. This state (my home state for about 30 years now) is not generally the most LGBT-friendly, and I can also state from lifelong experience that blue-collar jobs (food service, retail, construction, factory, etc., etc.) can harbor some of the most hard-core homophobes . . . I don't know if it's possible to explain this adequately to people in more open-minded areas, but it's a whole different world out here sometimes, under the radar of the middle class, away from the big cities. It really is.

Which is why I am ridiculously happy to state all of the following:
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Current Mood: jubilant
Tuesday, November 30th, 2010
2:26 pm

"Pentagon Sees Little Impact if Ban on Gays is Repealed"

"The report also found that much of the concern in the armed forces about openly gay service members was driven by misperceptions and stereotypes... The authors said that the concerns were exaggerated.."


Finally! Finally finally finally finally FINALLY!
Wednesday, September 22nd, 2010
9:08 pm
queer_yay is when a friend helps me find jobs where it would be safe for me to transition and it might be actually covered by health care.

It's when, after I come out to someone I always saw as an older sister, I'm informed I'll always be her little lumberjack and offering to get me modded trans dolls.

It's when I come out and I'm informed that, yeah, they'd figured that out six years ago and it's all cool.
Friday, September 10th, 2010
4:04 pm
Preteens are awesome.
I've spent the last two weeks as a student teacher at a local primary school. My class was grade 5/6, so the kids are about 11 and 12. I was working with a small group, giving them various statements and asking them to come up with arguments for and against, and somehow we got onto the topic of gay people. And got the following:

"I don't have any problem with gay people, bi people, transvestites, I'm accepting of all of them."
"If my brother said he was gay I wouldn't hate him. I'd give him a coming out party."
"Some people are homophobic but that's stupid."
"People shouldn't get bashed for being gay, it's just who they are."

This is a bunch of preteens. I sincerely hope that more kids out there are like them, and that they keep on feeling the same way :D
Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
1:48 pm

I know this is an intermediary step and it'll probably go all the way to the Supreme Court, but the pro Prop 8 side was so ridiculous in this trial that I don't think I could have handled it if they won.
Monday, July 26th, 2010
11:04 am
I love my sister.
I was talking to my sister to make sure she knew I was out.
Me: So, did you know I'm bi?
Lil Sis: Yes, I overheard you telling Mum. Sorry about her reaction, by the way.
Me: Thanks. It's not a big deal, is it?
Lil Sis: At the time, I remember wondering if I should be bothered, because I really wasn't. I just know something else about you is all. Then I went back to reading.
Me: *hugs her*
Lil Sis: *grinning* Mum'll love me best now, as F (our brother) is gay and you're a promisicous bisexual!
Me: Cheeky sod.
Saturday, July 17th, 2010
11:11 pm
Queer wedding cards!
I saw these in a card shop (granted, not a big mainstream chain, but still on the high street) this week, and they lifted my mood.

4:32 am
The good news keeps on comin', it seems. XD
Found here at ontd_political. Their source here.

Gay asylum seekers from Iran and Cameroon win appeal

Two gay men who said they faced persecution in their home countries have the right to asylum in the UK, the Supreme Court has ruled.

The panel of judges said it had agreed "unanimously" to allow the appeals from the men, from Cameroon and Iran.

They had earlier been refused asylum on the grounds they could hide their sexuality by behaving discreetly.

Home Secretary Theresa May said the judgement vindicated the coalition government's stance.

Under the previous government the Home Office had contested the case, saying it had taken sexuality into account when making its decisions.

The five Supreme Court justices were asked to decide whether a gay applicant could be refused asylum on the grounds that he could avoid ill treatment by concealing his sexuality.

Previous attempts by the men to stay in the UK had been rejected by judges at the Court of Appeal who ruled that if the men could conceal their sexuality, their situation could have been regarded as "reasonably tolerable".

But the applicants said this tolerability test was contrary to the Refugee Convention, to which the UK is a party.

The Supreme Court agreed and ruled that the men's cases could be reconsidered.

Lord Hope, who read out the judgement, said: "To compel a homosexual person to pretend that his sexuality does not exist or suppress the behaviour by which to manifest itself is to deny his fundamental right to be who he is. Homosexuals are as much entitled to freedom of association with others who are of the same sexual orientation as people who are straight."

The court said it would be passing detailed guidance to the lower courts about how to treat such cases in the future.

The applicant from Cameroon, who is only identified as HT, had been told he should relocate elsewhere in his country and be "more discreet" in future.

He had been attacked by an angry mob at home after being seen kissing his partner. He has been fighting removal from the UK for the past four years.

"Some people stopped me and said 'we know you are a gay man'," HT earlier told the BBC.

"I cannot go back and hide who I am or lie about my sexuality."

The other application was from a 31-year-old Iranian gay man, who was attacked and expelled from school when his homosexuality was discovered.

Like HT, he had been told he could be "reasonably expected to tolerate" conditions back home that would require him to be discreet and avoid persecution.

Punishment for homosexual acts ranges from public flogging to execution in Iran, and in Cameroon jail sentences for homosexuality range from six months to five years.

Mrs May said she welcomed the ruling, adding that it was unacceptable to send people home and expect them to hide their sexuality.

She said: "We have already promised to stop the removal of asylum seekers who have had to leave particular countries because their sexual orientation or gender identification puts them at proven risk of imprisonment, torture or execution. From today, asylum decisions will be considered under the new rules and the judgement gives an immediate legal basis for us to reframe our guidance for assessing claims based on sexuality, taking into account relevant country guidance and the merits of each individual case.

'We will of course take any decisions on a case-by-case basis," she said.

Ben Summerskill, the chief executive of gay lobby group Stonewall said it was delighted and offered to help the government deal with such cases.

Its recent No Going Back report had suggested that between 2005 and 2009, the Home Office had initially refused 98% of all gay or lesbian asylum claims.

Mr Summerskill said: "Demanding that lesbian or gay people return home to conceal their sexuality bears no resemblance to the reality of gay life in many countries."

Donna Covey, chief executive of the Refugee Council agreed and said: "It is about time refugees fleeing their countries because of persecution over their sexuality are acknowledged as being legitimately in need of safety here, in line with those fleeing other human rights abuses."

The charity Refugee Action called for UK Border Agency staff to receive further training about issues that could affect gay people in their home countries.

Its chief executive Jill Roberts said: "It is crucial that the right decision is made first time so that people are not returned to danger."
Thursday, July 15th, 2010
4:01 am
In other AWESOME NEWS...
From Reuters: Argentine Senate Passes Gay Marriage Bill!

BUENOS AIRES | Thu Jul 15, 2010 7:35am EDT
(Reuters) - Argentina's Senate passed a gay marriage bill early on Thursday, clearing the way for the country to become the first in South America to allow same-sex couples to marry.

Following more than 14 hours of charged debate, during which thousands of Argentines protested outside the Congress, the upper house voted 33-27 for the proposal, with three abstentions.

"I believe this has advanced equal rights," Senator Eugenio Artaza told reporters after the debate in which many lawmakers in the upper house invoked their Roman Catholic beliefs to explain their stance.

Argentine President Cristina Fernandez supports gay marriage on human rights grounds and is expected to sign the bill into law after her return from a state visit to China. It cleared Argentina's lower house in May.

Tens of thousands of opponents, from children to elderly nuns, braved near-freezing temperatures to protest outside the Congress since Tuesday, snarling traffic in Buenos Aires.

Debate on the bill began in early afternoon on Wednesday and spilled into the early hours of Thursday. Several hundred gay marriage supporters also stood vigil awaiting the vote.

Opinion polls show a majority of Argentines support gay marriage, but there is less backing for same-sex couples to adopt children.

The Argentine president's backing for the bill, which also gives homosexual couples the right to adopt children, has pitted Fernandez against the influential Roman Catholic Church a year before a presidential election.

Cardinal Jorge Bergoglio, archbishop of Buenos Aires, had raised particular concern about the adoption clause of the bill, saying it was important to ensure that children had as role models "both a father and a mother."

Pundits have said Fernandez's stance was meant to help bolster her party's leftist credentials. Nestor Kirchner, Fernandez's predecessor and husband, is widely expected to run again for the presidency in 2011.

Only a small number of countries permit same-sex marriage, including the Netherlands, Sweden, Portugal and Canada. In the United States, homosexual couples can marry in five states and in the capital, Washington.

Same-sex couples in Mexico City won the same rights as heterosexuals to marry and adopt children in December, under a law passed by city legislators. Uruguay allows same-sex couples to adopt children but not to marry.

Argentina's cosmopolitan capital, Buenos Aires, is known as a "gay friendly" tourist destination.

(Reporting by Magdalena Morales and Karina Grazina; Writing by Laura MacInnis; Editing by Peter Cooney)


Hopefully the gay adoption thing will be worked out too.
Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
4:49 pm
'Wow, what a long engagement that was!'
Source, with photo gallery.

By Ellen McCarthy
Washington Post Staff Writer
Sunday, June 27, 2010

The way Henry Schalizki tells it, his second encounter with Bob Davis came in 1945, when his fellow serviceman arrived in Hawaii to entertain the troops with the USO.

"You can be a little more elegant about it," Bob interjects. "I was starring in a play -- not entertaining the troops! The play was 'Room Service,' and I had the pivotal role."

They'd met three years before at a little restaurant in the Providence Biltmore Hotel. Boris Karloff was also there, but the two spent the evening talking to each other.

When a poster went up advertising the play's run in Hawaii, Henry recognized the photo of Bob. During intermission, he went backstage to reintroduce himself, and invited Bob out for a drink. Bob agreed and, once the curtain fell, hurried to remove his makeup and get to the lobby.

Fifteen minutes passed, then 20. No Henry. "I was very toasted that day," recalls Henry, now 88. "I walked out on his show."

"And I've never really forgotten that," says Bob, 89. "I was so good in the second act!"

Still, three years later, when Henry walked into a Baltimore bar where Bob was sitting alone, they quickly retraced their acquaintance. Bob had just moved to town for a job as a personality on a fledgling television station. Henry had grown up in Charm City and returned after the war to take a job with the B&O railroad administration.

When Henry learned Bob was staying at a seedy boarding house, he invitedhim to stay the night in his guest room, saying, "tomorrow we'll find you something."

But that never happened. They fell in love, and Bob "stayed and stayed" -- through good times and bad, sickness and health, through Stonewall and Vietnam, through the terms of 12 U.S. presidents, starting with Harry Truman. Through the loss of more friends than they care to count. They stayed together long enough to witness what they thought was impossible: Last Sunday, they exercised their newfound right, exchanging vows on a rooftop overlooking Pennsylvania Avenue, turning their six-decade relationship into a marriage.

"Wow, what a long engagement that was!" Bob said to their guests. "Sixty-two years! Something had to give."

"We needed each other," Bob said recently from a wingback chair in their Chevy Chase penthouse.

From the beginning, they traveled and socialized and spurred on each other's early passion for the theater. In his childhood, Henry had escaped an impoverished, dysfunctional life on the afternoons when his grandmother took him to a Baltimore matinee. Bob, always looking for an audience, began acting as a boy, working his way up to community theater and trying to make it in New York before becoming a broadcaster. Now they were devoted patrons, hitting every opening in town.

The two never shared their affection openly, nor did they completely hide it. Bob was always invited along to dinner parties at the homes of Henry's railroad colleagues. Henry regularly attended Bob's social engagements.

"We were considered a couple, curiously enough, considering the homophobia in existence at the time," Bob says. "They seemed to enjoy our company."

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Monday, June 21st, 2010
9:56 pm
Dear Mother,

I realize that I've been a horrible pain in the neck and just about the complete opposite of everything you had expected and wanted to see in your sole daughter. I am honestly sorry for disappointing you and not living up to your expectations.

However, while I regret causing you grief either by action or by intent, I do not regret being who I am -- and I just about fell over when you indicated that you're finally coming to terms with this and are starting to understand where I'm coming from. It's far more than I would have ever expected, especially since one year ago you seemed to not want anything to do with me anymore. Funny how it took a medical emergency and a brush with death to actually make the both of us drop our prickly armors and actually talk to each other, without sarcasm and emotional manipulation and bitter recriminations on either side.

We still have a long way to go and there are many things that you still don't have a strong grasp of, but we're getting there -- slowly and one step at a time. It makes me feel blessed that you're willing to go against what was been drilled in your head for your entire life and risk being the village's prime gossip fodder for my sake. I'm fully aware that my words and actions are challenging a religiously fundamentalist and socially patriarchal system that's been your sole universe for as long as you've known yourself -- and my heart swells with love when I see that you love me enough in turn as to risk forsaking all of this and heading out into the unknown with me.

Thank you for your love and your trust and your attempts at understanding.


your androgynous, genderqueer, quite likely pansexual child
Friday, May 7th, 2010
11:35 pm
Trans-friendly gaming!
I'm the president of the gaming club (video-, board-, card-, and other) at my school, and we just got our new charter approved. We now officially include "gender identity" in our non-discrimination statement!
Tuesday, May 4th, 2010
12:57 am
Dear French teacher in my all-girl's Catholic school;

thank you, thank you, thank you. Merci! This seems such a small thing, but giving us the phrase for 'girlfriend' (in the romantic sense) as well as 'boyfriend' made me unbelievably happy, because I felt included, and you did it with the air of 'no big deal', which is EXACTLY how it should be done. No jokes, no 'just in case someone has something to tell us', no sense of 'not that any of you girls will need this'. Just 'here is what you can say and it's no big thing'. It made me feel great and it made me feel like I was recognised, and I wish I could have figured out a way to tell you that without sounding like a weirdo.

Love, a queer student. :)

Dear girlfriend;

I know your parents are strict, Catholic and homophobic and you have a hard time accepting that you aren't straight. So words cannot express how proud I am of you for recent things you've done. You mentioned our relationship to a few people- no one too close to you, just people talking to you, and you stood your ground against odd looks. You gave me a peck on the lips in public- nowhere busy, but it mattered. You realised that you don't have to be gay or straight or anything because that's not what matters. You've come so far and you continue to amaze me, because you've had it drilled into your head that what we're doing is wrong but you don't let it stop you and you fight the way you were brought up constantly. You aren't perfect and I don't expect you to be, and I admit that I sometimes get upset because let's face it, my reaction to the idea that I might not be straight was sort of '...Oh. Cool. Carry on.' You have never had such an easy time of it, but you're getting more confident in your own skin day to day, and that makes me so, so happy.

Utter love, the idiot that sometimes forgets that not everybody had such an easy time coming to terms with it all. xx

Dear mum, grandma and my godmother;

You are all amazing. From your active encouragement of my attendance at Gay Pride (all of you) to your recommendation of gay clubs (godmum) to your complete fury at my school's sex ed policy barely ever mentioning LGBTQPA (all of you) to that moment when I wasn't out and you brought home Brokeback Mountain and Breakfast on Pluto and we watched them together and I realised that I could come out to you (mum) to getting out of the car to have stern words with the people with 'GAY SEX IS A SIN' placards (grandma)...through everything, you have never stopped supporting me. I love you all and I am so grateful for a family full of women like you. I just hope I can be half as brilliant as you lot are.

Love, your daughter/granddaughter/goddaughter :)

Current Mood: hopeful
Sunday, April 18th, 2010
12:08 am
For the last two years I've volunteered for a Melbourne-based group called Minus18, which runs events for queer youth. Normally during the school holidays we run dance parties, and we have social events on some weekends. Tonight, though, we had Australia's first queer formal! (Prom, homecoming, etc.) We had about 200 young people come from about age 14 to 21, and both individuals and companies went out of their way to give donations and sponsorships. Even though I spent more of the night running the cloakroom than actually in the event, it was the best atmosphere, and tonight I'm really proud to be queer and to have helped made this happen. :D
Friday, April 16th, 2010
12:37 pm
I'm going to a pride parade for the first time ever, and I have rainbow kneesocks, and it's ON MAY 1ST. Which means... we shall all be, as the saying goes, gay as the first of May! Mostly in both senses of the term, but not necessarily, of course.

Seriously, awesome scheduling is AWESOME.

This is a really small yay, isn't it? But it made me laugh. Anyone else going to pride parades?
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